Every individual has their own way of grieving for a lost family relative or friend.
I myself have the experience of losing my Mother, the experience is one of shock. Yes I am grieving and miss her terribly but have yet to shed a tear. It does make me feel very guilty but understanding my belief of the afterlife gives me a far greater strength that I actually realised. The understanding of the shell we live in is just for recognition to identify us towards others is the first acceptance for me, the second is the soul never dies and exists in spirit form and can communicate when chosen to do so.
I chose to visit my Mother in the chapel of rest and although she looked very peaceful there was the obvious recognition she had vacated her body. I know this sounds a little strange but she had moved on to the next stage, in truth it did not feel like I was standing next to my Mother.
This, to some might sound a little harsh but as I have mentioned the shell we live in is just for the time we spend in it. It is not needed when we pass, there is no use for it.
When we lose someone close to us the hardest thing is to accept it, it is the thought of never seeing or hearing them ever again. Something that has been snatched away from us is so devastating and unfair. The suffering can be never ending. The memories we collect are of a vast importance to help with our grief, they soften the shock when you can accept, in your own time, the loss you have encountered.
No-one can say how long grieving should take as it is an individual process, the shock can delay the healing process for some time.
I truly believe my Mother has rested in a far greater place and is free of any worries or pain as those before her, I also believe when she has settled she will show a sign of her being safe, either to myself or one of the family. There is no time you can place on it so you have to be patient.
To help any one who has been in this situation and is struggling to cope remember my words, they will never completely leave you, in body yes but in spirit they will always be there, so just speak out loud and talk to them because they will always hear you.
May your wounds be healed by the belief of this.
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Hmmmmm, something to consider in thought maybe?
Yes I am thinking of the word “paranormal”. The meaning is there is no explanation for the event on this earth. This leads to the word “supernatural”. This means it is not subject to the laws of physics. Supernatural is said to exist above and beyond nature, beyond natural laws and cannot be explained, really it is shown as anything outside the natural order. It can be known as miraculous but also abnormal. To take it even deeper it has been known as belonging to a higher realm, a transcending nature. Supernatural forces, occurrences, and beings collectively or their realm.
My goodness, I think the descriptive explanation is more frightening than the actual event. Anybody reading that would be more confused about their predicament let alone wondering how to go about it.
Really it is quite simple to understand. Firstly not everyone is chosen to witness spirit activity, if you are chosen then you are meant to witness various events. Yes I can understand the element of fear it can produce, believe me when I say it is not there to harm you, more often there is a reason for the visit and this is what you need to find. First investigate who, then why and then what reason. No, not all can find the way to these answers, I would not expect you to, but they will not always go away on their own. S.P.I has the experience and know-how to help you with any type of activity. You may know it as haunting or ghostly presence, at the end of the day it is something you don’t understand and would like answers. Others will see their experience as very private and it was just for theirself to witness and in a way they are right, but just take a minute to think? If you could come forward and tell us of your experience it would help others who have had simular events to adjust, just from knowing they are not on their own with what they have witnessed. You do not have to be named, just give us the county you are in if this is what you prefer. If you wish to send us your experiences or would like us to investigate an event just email us and we will advise and help you.
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You know the words “Ghost and Spirit”, but understanding it is important to you! We are here to help you to understand.
We have always agreed there is a strong distinction between “Ghost Hunting Events” and “Paranormal investigations”. We still say the former is a great social event where individuals may or may not experience Paranormal occurrences.
The latter, (Paranormal Investigations), are conducted seriously and professionally, any evidence gathered is scrutinised to the highest level before being classified. We review all evidence recorded and identify the cause using logical and scientific methods along with our skills.
Our only wish would be that all groups would advertise which of the above they really are!
2016, we have again decided not to charge private clients for our services, but please consider distance costs, these are not compulsory.
S.P.I. has offered services for over 15 years and will continue to help individuals experiencing spirit activity for many more. We have shown people how to understand about spirit activity and not to fear it. All our work detail will be explained when interviewing the client.
When your home or business is in harmony with the energies of the earth there is a beneficial and healthy flow inside and outside of the building. We lighten the energy of your surroundings, removing any draining influences.
We conduct an interview to find if spiritual influences are impacting you or your families health and well being.
My name is Alan and my associates are Nick, Jeff and Karen, We are the team Known as S.P.I., and we investigate seriously into the reasons of spirit activity, this being a necessity and has a major impact on our successful and overall results. Combined we have many, many years of hands on experience which is why we have become so successful in our work.
Please read on……..
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Many people have contacted us over the years and requested our advice or our help in finding the answers to why they are experiencing these unusual and sometimes frightening events. their first response is, “I worry about what others might think”. Remember they are not the one who are experiencing it! Everyone has their opinion on spirit activity or, “ghosts”, as they would recognize it better and some will be quite anti about it as well; but this is mainly through the lack of experience and not experiencing any activity for them-self. This brings us to say be tactful who you talk to about your experiences as many do not understand and this can lead to poor advice. You will see events posted on this site which explain some of the experiences of certain individuals; this is only at the clients permission. Private clients MEAN no individuals information or identification of abode will be shown, that is our promise.
Our experienced successful team is very discrete, respectful and most definitely professional within the service we offer.
There are many people who think if you ignore spirit activity it will go away; how wrong can they be, it is visiting for a reason and unless you find that reason it can be persistent until you help them; “Enter S.P.I.”, that is what we are here for, not just to help you but to help identify spirit activity.
I will make it clear to you; we are not a team that plays with spirit or ghost, nor are we looking for proof of spirit activity,( why look for something we know already exists?) we do not conduct tour groups, the entertainment side of our work is showing others the professional way to conduct an investigation and resolve what is recognised as spirit presence. We work to show you, the client, why it is there, identify it and the reason for your activity, also if requested we will resolve and calm the event you are experiencing. It is YOUR welfare and peace of mind that we take into consideration. If you want conformation or a written report, S.P.I. can do this for you. If there is reason for any activity causing you to be fearful or in distress, again we can help you. We have also worked with children professionally and we always advise and insist for parenting adults to be present.
We are here to advise or to arrange an investigation for you, feel free to look around our website.
Remember, having the experience to know and understand is the key but realising correctly how to use that key gives you entry to ultimate success. S.P.I. has the key and will help anyone to unlock their experiences to find the answers they seek.
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On the Death of My Son – Part One
In Life Now and Hereafter, Aart Jurriaanse writes (all the writings of the author may be freely used and are not subject to any restrictions) –
On the Death of My Son was originally privately published in 1974 under the title Mike, with the author using Ronald Norman as pseudonym. It proved very popular and was subsequently reprinted by Turn stone Press for wider distribution in Great Britain under the title On the Death of My son. Jasper Swain however did not favor the new title, so when rights were transferred to various publishers in the USA, the name again changed to From My World to Yours.
Some twenty years ago Jasper Swain’s eldest son Mike tragically died in a motor accident on one of the national roads in KwaZulu Natal, South Africa. Mile who at the time was only eighteen, was accompanied by Heather, the eleven year old daughter of friends. They were killed instantaneously and apparently without suffering any pain.
Shortly after the funeral Jasper went to see Mrs Nina Merrington, who had offered him her services to act as spiritualistic medium in order to establish contact with Mike in the Spirit world.
After Nina passed into trance Jasper was startled to hear her speaking with Mike’s voice, addressing him as “Chud,” a name that only his dead son had ever used. When asked how the accident had happened, Mike said that he would place Nina in the driver’s seat, so that she could describe exactly how things had transpired (pp. 21 – 27).
She began by saying: “He has placed me in a small green Mini car. It has a peculiar gear lever, a short stubby gear lever, next to my left leg.” (The Mini had had its normal gear shift altered and a remote control gear shift had been mounted between the seats).
“It is a terribly hot day and I am driving along a very crowded road. There is a little girl beside me. Her name is Heather. She is chatting to me about her mum and dad, who are in the car ahead of us. I can see their car, approximately fifty yards away. It is grey in colour; it looks like a Rambler. It is noon and there is a mass of holiday traffic passing us in both directions.
“Now I see a black car coming towards us. As it approaches us, I see this other car coming behind it. I can see this other car clearly because it is in the middle of the road, trying to pass the black car.
Nina paused a moment and then said: “The sun is glaring on the windscreen of the black car and reflecting back into my eyes. I can see nothing but a bright silver radiance. It is blinding me.
“All of a sudden the radiance changes from silver to gold. I am being lifted up in the air, out through the top of the car. I grab little Heather’s hand. She too is being lifted up out of the car.
“We have been lifted thirty feet above the Mini. And in one horrifying second, I see the little Mini and this large car collide head-on. There is a noise like the snapping of steel banjo strings. The little Mini bounces right off the highway, right over on to the gravel verge. It is finally brought to a halt in a cloud of dust when it hits a giant anthill.
“The large car is turning turtle in mid air. Its nose flips over until it is back to front. Then it smashes down on to the road on its side. Now it skids four or five feet and finally it comes to a halt with an ear-splitting crash. A storm of metallic dust is now glinting all over the road. The wheels of this car are still spinning aimlessly.”
Nina stopped, obviously too agitated to continue.
What impressed her listeners was the fact that Mike had never seen the other vehicle until after the silver light had changed to gold.He and Heather had felt no sense of impact. They had suffered no pain. Just a gentle ascent into the air.
Nina recovered herself enough to continue: “Heather and I are still holding hands. We now descend beside the Mini. We see two crumpled bodies lying in it.
“We feel vaguely sorry that this thing should have happened to them. And we both fully understand that we are now, so far as mortals are concerned, dead.
“We are also both aware that a lot of people have begun to gather round us. They are dressed in glorious colours. We recognize familiar faces; the faces of friends who passed beyond the earth before us. We are still hand in hand; now, guided by the one who first lifted us into the air, the two of us sweep towards the skies. We drift about the two round hills known as the Breasts of Sheba.”
In heartfelt joy the three (Jasper, his wife Clarice and his second son Kevin) listened, transported by the fact that the passing had involved neither fear, shock nor suffering.
Mike now addressed himself to his brother. Some time after the smash, Kevin had noticed that dust was gathering on the bike and he had begun to clean it. In the process he noticed that the drive chain was dry. In too much of a hurry to find the grease gun, he rashly decided to take a chance with the oil can. He bungled it however and oil flowed out of the bottom of the casing and made a pool on the kitchen floor. Kevin had mopped up the oil with one of Mike’s dusters, which he promptly washed and ironed before returning it to its ceremonial drawer.
Mike now informed him that he had watched the proceedings like a hawk and warned his brother that if he ever made another mess like that, he would clip him over the ear!
This left Kevin devoid of further speech because this episode had occurred long after the funeral and no one knew about it save himself. Yet Mike had not only seen everything as it happened but he was giving him “a swift bounce” for good measure!
Mike next turned to his mother. “I am so glad you’ve begun to accept what has happened,” he told her. “Never allow yourself to mourn. When you do, it vitally depresses me in this world. Send us your love, send us your happiness; these we can use in the service of our Father.
“The other morning, just after sunrise, you left the bedroom and went down to the garden in your dressing gown and you picked a single, perfect white rose. I was with you then and I surrounded you with all my love. Mum, if you do get depressed again, go out into the garden and pick another flower. I shall be there with you again.”
Jasper and Kevin knew nothing of this, having been asleep when Clarice had gone down into the garden. But in the weeks that followed, whenever Clarice went alone to the garden, Jasper and Kevin would notice that no matter how somberly she would leave the house, she would come back later with her eyes sparkling and her face transformed.
Mike continued to his mother: “The only real bust-ups you and I got into were when you made me study half the night for those exams! I appreciate why you did it but if we’d only known what was going to happen, there’d have been no need for you to take such a bloomin’ great broomstick to me!”
Jasper, being the easy-going man he was, had always allowed Mike and Kevin to make their own rules at school but Clarice knew that Mike was not particularly dedicated to heavy-weight studying and she make it her business to keep his nose to the grindstone.
“Mike where are you now?” Jasper asked him.
The reply came instantly: “I am surrounded by the love and the peace of our Father, Chud.”
“But where are you? What world are you in? Can you tell me?”
“I’m in a world that looks pretty much the same as your world, Dad; only there are different laws up here.
“When I say laws, I don’t mean the laws that govern the behavior of the people here. I mean the laws that govern thought.
“Mike, tell me more about that world. How do you get there?” Where does it exist?”
“Dad, everyone comes here through the gates of death. You have to rearrange your values to appreciate its virtues, though! While you are still on earth, your thought, your intentions, everything you do, gives your soul a certain rate of vibration. For argument’s sake, let’s suppose your soul is vibrating in a fifty megacycle band. When you die and manifest here, you would go straight to the part of our world which vibrates at fifty megacycles. By the same token, if you’re a slow-thinking sort of bloke, who can only vibrate to fifteen megacycles, then you’ll become part of this world in the fifteen megacycle range. It’ll all depend on your rate of vibration, see?
“Therefore you yourself select the kind of scenery that will await you when you arrive here.
“The worlds above us are even richer in light and happiness. If I go up there (and I can) I find it too bright; the light hurts my eyes. And the vibrations are so refined that I can’t respond to them! So I reverse gear and return to this world – which suits me just fine!
“The planes below this one are denser, dimmer places. If I go down to them, it becomes murkier until it is so creepy that I scoot back here where I belong!”
On the Death of My Son – Part Two
Jasper continues his account on the death of his son, Mike –
“These worlds that you refer to Mike … ?
“Not so much worlds, Dad, as planes of existence. Though we have the sun and the skies and acres of beautiful flowers here, we don’t have rain, as you know it. Nor is there any blight to destroy the beauty of the trees. They look exactly the same as they do on earth. With one big difference, however. Here, they are all perfect. There are no high winds to warp and twist them. There are only gentle breezes. It is always coolish-warm, if you know what I mean.
“My greatest joy here is my sense of perfect freedom. We can go wherever we like, whenever we feel like it; this world is infinite.
“And though everyone you meet on this plane is at the same stage of development as yourself, he is still a rugged individualist in his own right; just as he was on your earth! Everyone has his own way of looking at things and his own way of speaking his mind! When you discuss anything here, you always learn something new because the bloke you’re talking to has such an original attitude. As I said, thought is all-powerful here. For example, if I want to own a brand new Jaguar, all I have to do is visualize the car in my mind and it is created right there before my eyes, out of the thought-energy of this world!
“But we would think twice before doing that because it means having to think in three dimensions! If I were to visualize the car as it looks in a magazine, that’s exactly what I’d get! I need to think in terms of the width of the car, the interior of the car, all the fittings and where each rightly belongs. But Dad, the minute you think of it correctly, there it is! The difficulty is to concentrate completely on the whole car, exactly as it exists.
“If we are far away from one another and we want to make contact, telepathy is the accepted thing here. I merely have to think of the fellow I want to speak to and bingo! he’s right there! We contact each other as easily as you use the telephone … except that we don’t need a phone!
“If someone wants to talk to you, you first hear him in your mind. If you want to go to him, you merely exert your will and in two ticks you’re right there! Takes a bit of getting used to but it beats TV by a mile! You see how perfect everything is?
“This world is the right one for me at this stage of my development but as my vibrations become more refined, I shall be able to visit the higher planes with ease. One day, I may even find that a higher plane suits me better than the one I’m in. We all progress this way. As we grow in spirit, we ascend to the next plane; the two processes work hand-in-glove.
“When you want to study the law and learn how it operates, you go to the Hall of Logic. There are many Halls of Knowledge and Wisdom here. You can go to any university you choose, though the lectures are all very informal; you can discuss the subject with the lecturer, face to face. You can stay all day if you like, except that that could be forever because we have no day and night here!
“We can travel from one end of this realm to the other as fast as lightning. Our bodies never get tired. Illness and sickness don’t exist here. This is a world of perfection.”
All this information took Jasper some considerable time to digest and his next question was: “Mike, if you are safe in the infinite domain of God; where is Hell?
This was met by a burst of hearty laughter.
“Gee, Dad,” answered Mike, “I’m afraid there’s no such place! My Father is a father of love and compassion. He can’t, He would never permit one of His souls to suffer and Hell would be a place of suffering. I guess it only exists where you are now! Lovingly preserved in aspic by the sanctimonious.
“There is a more realistic law, in both our worlds, that has just as many teeth! Don’t try to identify white until you have learned to identify black – and vice verso – because only then will you know what black and white are! That is why you mortals were put on earth in the first place, Dad; to learn by trial and error. But because you will go by the letter of the law instead of the spirit of the law, you keep coming unstuck! Yet how often have you seen that same law in action, Dad, and sworn by its infallibility?
“When you and I used to talk together, you used to call it the law of the boomerang. But it isn’t triggered by material cause and effect, it is triggered by the intent in your heart!
“For example, suppose you are driving a car too fast and a little child suddenly rushes out into the road and you knock her down; by earth law you would be frogmarched off to the nearest jail. But according to divine law, genuine remorse for having hurt the child can wipe the slate clean. If you didn’t cold-bloodily set out to hurt her, what can you be punished for?
“Mind you I shouldn’t use the word ‘punish;’ the proper term is ‘just desserts.’ Who should understand that better than you? You taught me that ‘as we sow, so shall we reap!’ And from where I sit now, I can see that law operating twenty-four hours a day in your ‘best of all worlds!’ The only thing that puzzles me is why human beings still persist in denying its existence!
“There are no law courts here, by the way Dad, because everyone of our laws operates within our hearts. Until we accept the fact that all negative thinking must always end in tears, we continue to create our own suffering. You’d be surprised how quickly I learned that the condition of my heart reflects the world around me! Now I would be willing to bet both our shirts Dad, that the really real world, the truly true life, is here where I am. Your mortal world is more in the nature of a kindergarten where you and the other nut visit affliction on each other as a salutary lesson not to do it in the wiser worlds-to-come!
“The basic trouble is that most of you mortals will insist on existing rather than living. You trip over your frustrations until you can barely stumble from pillar to post. Why else do you think the eastern races use the lotus as a symbol of spiritual beauty? The lotus grows in the slime of stagnant swamps but out of the muck rises the pure white blossom. Man eventually learns to distinguish beauty and truth from the misery and evil that surround him. And only from the acceptance of beauty and truth comes the wondrous return to the bosom of the Great One.”
This is just extracts of the book.
In his book, “Children Who Have Lived Before: Reincarnation Today,”German therapist Trutz Hardo tells this boy’s story, along with other stories of children who seem to remember their past lives with verified accuracy. The boy’s story was witnessed by Dr. Eli Lasch, who is best known for developing the medical system in Gaza as part of an Israeli government operation in the 1960s. Dr. Lasch, who died in 2009, had recounted these astounding events to Hardo. The boy was of the Druze ethnic group, and in his culture the existence of reincarnation is accepted as fact. But even in a culture were reincarnation was accepted, his story nonetheless had the power to surprise his community. This is because his story contained piece of information which he had no possible way of knowing which were later verified to be true. This boy was born with a long, red birthmark on his head. This is precisely what you would expect to find on someone if they had suffered a fatal wound there in their previous life. The Druze do believe that birthmarks are related to past-life traumas, and so does the boy apparently. When he was old enough to talk, he told his family he had been killed by a blow to the head with an axe. It is customary for elders to take a child at the age of 3 to the home of his previous life if he remembers it. Quite a culture difference from the Western world. After arriving to the village, the boy was able to remember all of the details of the village and the name of the person he was in a previous life. A village local said the man the boy claimed to be the reincarnation of had gone missing four years earlier. His friends and family thought he may have strayed into hostile territory nearby as sometimes happens. Here is where it gets cool. The boy also remembered the full name of his killer, and confronted the man who had killed him in his past life! The murderers face turned white, although he did not yet admit to the crime. The boy then said he could take the elders to where the body was buried. In that very spot, they found a man’s skeleton with a wound to the head that corresponded to the boy’s birthmark. Nearby, they also found the axe that was used as the murder weapon. The murderer then proceeded to admit to the crime after being faced with this evidence. Dr. Lasch, the only non-Druze, was present through this whole process and testifies to this story.
In this post we will have many modern stories of true experiences of which the element of trust and confidence for individuals can be fully respected. This means our group will agree to the senders choice to be named or to be anonymous. There are many who do not have the confidence to speak or write freely because they think others would ridicule them. We are part of the many who believe in spirit activity and hope to encourage you to come forward and tell us of your chosen experiences. Our own experiences over the years have given us the strength to move forward and find new answers, you can help us and many others by allowing others to read your own events. We must say again that we will not show any identity or address of any person who wishes to share this personal memory. This could be a wonderful way of helping people to connect with each other knowing they have something in common to share, more importantly they will know you have had similar experiences and understanding of spirit activity, this means you can say what you want without the worry of what the inexperienced think. We never judge any persons experiences. We have no right to and nor should anybody else, these events that are set before us are given privately for that individual only, they are the chosen one, you should not be ashamed or worried about it, we believe it is an honour to be contacted by spirit. It is such a shame when we hear the words of, “they must be mad, they are hearing voices or seeing things”. You will NOT hear those words here, they are spoken by the individuals that do not understand or are just plain disbelievers. They are even spoken by the ones who are afraid. Come and join us, we understand.
We take this opportunity to thank all of you for having the strength and trust to allow us to show your written private experiences, of which we have no doubt at all that it will help others to come to terms with their own, very real events.
Bless you. Alan, Jeff, Karen and Nick.
Before my senses were able to hear spirit directly, I was keen to do a survey and learn the ups and downs of the Ouija board.
It is very important to open the board in the way of allowing any spirit to come in temporary visitation only and to be direct and strong to have them leave in the same manner.
One of my first encounters was a close friend who identified me by spelling out my nickname, he had crossed a year previous, he also gave me his nickname, he said he was ok.
Using the planchette on the board would work very quickly every time, never any waiting around. It was found that the many spirit who came through would just want to please you and give you many answers, even if they were not completely true.
I had a male spirit on one occasion, I asked how he saw us, he spelt out, it was in spirit form? Again asked was he in the room with us, he said yes, and spelt he was at the other end of the table. I then left the room, wrote on a piece of paper a number, on returning to the room I placed this on the back of my head with the number pointing to the wall behind me. I asked him to come to me and look behind me and tell me what the number was. The planchette then moved to the number I had written. On all the occasions I was involved I did not touch the board or planchette with the group. This was also done with sealed envelopes placed under the board with certain names on, they were all answered correctly.
There were many times we were told information about so many things only to find no information or trace of, slight negativity and threats from spirit would sometimes come through. There was never a time when we could not make contact.
Yes I had to cleanse my dwelling, even with the correct instruction into using the Ouija board spirit still slipped in. Two monks were the first sightings and we conducted the appropriate clearance for them.
I did not experience anything in the form of demon or truly nasty within the six months of the survey, but I have known of such occasions.
It is a truly remarkable device, but in the wrong hands can be a recipe for disaster. Many times we have been called out to a client who has had quite a negative spirit within their dwelling; finding out that the younger generation have mis-used an Ouija board without protection. Unfortunately they believe it is a laugh at the time.
I have even experienced using the board on my own, the planchette moved the same as it did when there were three or four people at the table. No I did not move it sub-consciously as I would be witnessed to be looking away from the board.
It is a fascinating object, not always truthful but most definitely a means of communication to many dimensions. Many of the experiments were logged as confirmed to be correct and true, as for some of the stories that were given to us and by whom, I must say were very imaginative and not traceable.
Never-the-less I would still be very clear and stern in saying, DON’T PLAY WITH WHAT YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND. Never underestimate the use of the board, it is NOT a toy as many like to think, it is a disguised and positive TOOL.